I’ve spent the last several days exposing myself to the feeding frenzy of adult dating Robyn suggested. To say my eyes have been opened would be an understatement. The entire panoply of human sexuality is on display, and there for the offing. The websites and apps Robyn suggested seem to breakdown into two main types: dating or lifestyle.
Dating
First, I looked into the dating apps and websites. These platforms’ main focus is on dating for relationships. Although, I am sure there are many hookups happening as well.
Apps
Robyn’s list started with four smartphone apps. They are all easy to navigate and seem to have lots of active local members. However, the members definitely skew younger. The vast majority are decades younger than me and seem to be looking for the same. I feel rather out of place and ancient and won’t bother keeping a profile on any of the apps.
Senior Centers
Next, the two dating websites on Robyn’s list are specifically aimed at the over 50 crowd. Thankfully, most members seem to fall in the 45 – 65 year old range which put me more at ease. However, compared to the apps, the number of local members is much, much lower.
Additionally, both of the “senior” sites have a pretty conservative vibe. The culture is definitely more dating than hookup. In fact, one of the two sites offers the choice of “dating and social” or “social and companionship” only paths. I’m not sure either site offers much hope in finding a “fuck buddy” as Robyn put it. Honestly, I’m not even sure it would be appropriate to ask for that on these sites.
Nevertheless, I created a profile on each site. I was careful to state that I’m not looking for marriage or any longterm commitments — just casual fun. We’ll see…
Lifestyles
Robyn described the next group of sites as “lifestyle” communities. These online communities seem focused less on traditional dating and hookups, rather the focus more on connecting individuals with similar interests and lifestyles. Robyn’s list included communities for alternative (fetish and BDSM), naturist (nudism), and swinging lifestyles.
Tie Me Up, Tie Me Down
First up were two “alternative” communities. A lot of what I saw was a bit shocking — not necessarily in bad ways. I must confess that I’ve had a few dreams about bondage and disciple. But, it would require a special partner for me to feel safe exploring those fantasies. My ex was very domineering (and not in a good way) and it has left me skittish.
So, I’m not ready for these explorations yet, but color me intrigued. For now, I bookmarked these for future exploration.
Nature Girl
Next on Robyn’s list was the site of a local naturist society. I’m really excited about this community. I’ve always been comfortable with my body and would have no qualms about stripping off and baring it all in the warm Colorado sun or a soothing hot spring.
Primarily, the local group is a membership community for a clothing optional hot spring resort. I have already inquired about membership with a mind to sunning my buns this coming summer. And, who knows, maybe I’ll make some great, laid-back new friends as well.
Swinging Single
Finally, I checked out a “swingers site” that Robyn suggested. This site bills itself as a place to find “Adult Friends.” But, it is obvious to all who enter that this is a place primarily for hooking up. Whether the connection you seek is a one-off boff, a third to your couple, a couple to swing with, a casual fuck buddy, or a long-term friend with benefits; this is the place.
Immediately, I could see this site is a bit of a meat market. Men greatly out number women and everyone was essential after one thing — carnal gratification. However, I find something honest about how upfront everyone is. This was a stark and welcome contrast to most of the dating apps.
Additionally, there was a refreshing diversity of age, body type, race, sexual orientation, and gender identity. And, most refreshing, almost no projected judgement. “You do you and be safe doing it” seems to be the guiding principle.
So, I created a profile and tried to be honest about who I am, where I’m at in life, and who and what I think I’m looking for. Here’s the profile:
Mature, divorced woman with white hair and blue eyes. Good figure for my age. I am retired with my own place that I share with two cats. Left-leaning, practicing pagan, avowed sensualist with a laid-back bohemian vibe. Drug and disease free (unless you count wine) — you be too please.
I’m looking for friends for adult pleasures and play. Seeking select casual hookups, and hopefully longer-term friends with benefits (emphasis on “friends”). Please be courteous and respectful. Body type and age not as important as personality and attitude. Playfulness, sensuality and a good sense of humor go to the head of the line.
Baby Steps
To begin, I’m going to just sit back and observe on the two dating and one swinging sites where I created profiles. I’ll see what response, if any, my profiles generate. And, I might spend some time in the online chat offered by the swinging site. The swinger site has a lot of local profiles. That is promising at least. Will any of them turn out to be worth a fuck (literally), or am I just exposing myself to a bunch of creeps? Time will tell. Hopefully I’ll find some casual fun. Or, if dreams come true, a good friend with benefits.
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